Sunday, July 24, 2011

words that tear at your heart

I went to a funeral recently, this was a friend of mine, but even more so, he was a lifelong friend of my S.O.
Lifetime friends. We don't get to have many of those. 
My S.O. has been keeping up with him for years and was able to be with him when he passed away.
After his death, we called our condolences by phone, and had stopped by the house.

But here at the funeral home things are sometimes so real, so intense.  Death seems to take up so very much room often taking up all the air around us.
I was giving condolences to our friend (the widow) and hugging her, both of us had tears streaming down our cheeks. She hugged me back so very fiercely and desperately saying, " I don't know what I am going to do without him. He was my world, he was my everything".

We become changed after every death in our lives. As we will change the lives of others upon our death.
Give an extra hug today. Say words with meaning. Forgive a little bit more.  Love the person as much as you can. It is a privilege to have someone to love you and for you to have someone to love.


  1. Very touched by this post, and yes, it IS a privilege.

  2. Lovely post today, though I am sorry that you lost a good friend. I liked the last paragraph so much. It is so true.

  3. Amen to that! So true. I am sorry for the loss of your friend. Time does heal though.

  4. it is a privilege, but so often we forget. We forget and we get caught up in the little things, the things that don't matter.

    Thank you for this reminder.

    Peace to you.

  5. Oh, you are so right. I think about this when I think of my husband. I get so exasperated with him at times, so dissappointed, but when I think of life without him--it brings me to tears. He truly is the other half of me. Thank you for this reminder to tell him I love him.